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Grief can take the joy of life away from us, and if we’re not careful, indefinitely. Part of our heart goes into the grave with the person we love. We experience waves of emotion–highs, lows, and oh, so lows. In our logical minds, we know that we need to move forward, but the grip of pain and loss thrusts us into a chokehold that nearly takes our breath away. We’re barely alive. We recognize that we can’t remain in this state. Somehow,

we must continue thriving in the midst of grief. Grief immobilizes: but thrive; we must.

Moving Through Grief Takes An intentional Heart & Mindset

Acceptance—no one wants to do it. Acceptance forces our hand: It anchors us to the finality that our loved one never again shall return. We wrestle with grief–this stark reality. It’s not easy pushing past this threshold. It takes an intentional shift in our hearts and mindsets. We take charge of our grief. We live in that moment of despair but determine  still to keep moving. We resist those urges of getting stuck or losing our will to live. How? Think of things that make us smile. Remember the benefit of happy thoughts. Dopamine releases and stress dissipates. Instead of avoiding thoughts of loved ones, embrace that love. Let their essence enfold us with pleasant memories. Share moments of what makes them cherished. So many want to forget, but there’s so much joy in remembering.  

You know, I never met my great-grandparents, but I know them. They are ever so alive to me. My grandmother made certain to keep her parents alive. She spoke of them often. I even speak of them as though they are here. My grandchildren know them. I’m grateful that my great-grandparents and now my grandparents continue to live on through me everytime I share something they did or said or taught me. I smile and the sorrow melts away. Yes, sometimes, I cry from the absence of their physical presence, but it’s soon replaced with something joyful.

Have You Ever Questioned?

  • Why do we feel guilty for thriving?
  • Why do we feel guilty for living or experiencing any happiness after the death of a loved one?
  • Why do we feel we owe the memory of our loved ones our perpetual grief instead of joy?

 

Sometimes thoughts flood our minds that our grief expresses our devotion for our loved ones. Some of us feel guilty because we lived and a loved one did not. Let’s ask ourselves. What would our loved ones want for us? From their great beyond, would they only want us to eat, work, wash, lose hope, and just wait to die? I think not! Love begets love. They loved us, and if they could send a message, it would probably say, “I love you, and please live a full life. Celebrate our love. Make me proud.”

Thrive In The Midst of Grief

Sow Into The Lives of Others To Gain New Focus

As we adjust to life and as some of the achings subside, consider pouring our attention or affections into a person or an interest that honors our loved ones. We could also embrace new focus and purpose, doing our best to fill each day with hope. Hope refreshes our lives. Hope reminds us that health and wellness wait just around the river bend.

Make An Intentional Effort To Begin or Continue Thriving In the Midst of Grief

Remember the Benefits–

  • Thriving isn’t optional. It’s imperative.
  • Moving through grief intentionally promotes hope. 
  • Existing establishes our purpose isn’t finished.
  • Accomplishing our Divine journey produces blessings and joy. 
  • Remembering comforts our hearts. 
  • Celebrating memories of our loved ones keep their essence alive. 
  • Sowing into the lives of others helps us thrive.
  • Taking charge of our grief helps us heal emotionally and reflects our commitment to honor our loved ones through living, flourishing, and prospering.

 

COMMITTED TO THRIVING IN THE MIDST OF GRIEF

You’re welcome to read more about beginning again at Your Last Story.

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