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It’s a certainty that we each have a date with eternity, and if we’re wise, we make arrangements to prepare for this often unwelcomed day. Most of us establish life insurance, and some of us may purchase a burial plot or crypt. Some of us discuss our last wishes with our family, and others prepare a will to carry out our wishes accordingly. We establish an advance directive so that family is aware of how to address our needs should we become incapacitated or unable to make our own decisions. These are all necessary measures to take in preparation for our end-of-life journey. Lets discuss three things people forget to before dying, yet must do. 


Include User Name & Passwords With Burial Documents

Maintaining privacy and security assures us that details and documents about our lives are protected and safe from identity theft predators. However, over the past few months, I witnessed the frustration of close friends and family as they haggled with banks and mobile phone and app services. They tried to convince these institutions to grant them access to various accounts. Without a death certificate, they could not close out accounts or withdraw much-needed funds from accounts. It’s unfortunate, but the institutions’ hands are tied.


Prepare a Hardcopy of User Names and Passwords

How can we prevent this from happening to us? First thing: store a hard copy of all passwords with our end-of-life document. Forgetting this step will add undue burdens on our loved ones as they begin the process of closing out our affairs. Knowing the user names and passwords makes for a smoother transition.


Make Sure Someone Knows the Location of Burial Documents

The second thing people forget to do before dying is to inform our loved one designated to manage our affairs where our documents are located. If we fail to carry out this simple task, our loved ones will, more than likely, cover the cost of our burial and final arrangements, even though it may not be necessary. Some may say, “I know mom had insurance,” or “Dad spoke about his policy from time to time.” Oftentimes, the family stumbles upon the burial policy or other essential documents after packing up their loved one’s belongings. Unfortunately, some families never locate that much-needed policy or document. If we make sure that our designated person knows exactly where to retrieve our end-of-life burial documents, we ensure this doesn’t happen to us.


Inform Everyone In Our Circle of Family and Close Friends About Our Advance Directive Decisions

Have an advance directive specifying our final wishes should we become incapacitated and unable to make decisions independently. The third thing we must not forget to do before dying is inform everyone in our inner circle about our advance directive wishes. If we neglect to do this one task, we set up an occasion for discord among family members. It goes something like this: “Do everything you can for my dad,” or “No, mama didn’t want a life hooked up to all those tubes and machines.”

Everyone offers their sincerest attempt at doing what is right for their loved one. But what is the right thing to do? It’s not quite clear on that decision because various narratives were shared with family and close friends over the years. The loss of a loved one causes some really toxic manifestations for some people. This expression is easily avoidable when we take the time to share our wishes with everyone. It’s best to have this discussion with everyone together. If we can’t, inform everyone that we will share this same information with the other family and close family friends.


So, let’s make every endeavor to do these three things before dying. Our family and close friends will thank us. Three things to remember to include with our end-of-life burial documents:

  • Provide a hardcopy of user names and passwords
  • Identify the location of the end-of-life burial document file or folder
  • Inform every family and close friend with the same information for the advance directive

Preparedness is fundamental for peace of mind and unity. 

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